Any article on all of woman kind is going to be very general. With that in mind, realise that anything I suggest here might not be true for your girlfriend or wife in particular.
A lot of women do indeed like dirty talk, but only in certain ways and at certain times. Learning these kinds of things means that you’ll have to talk to your partner about what they like and this can be kind of awkward. Of course, it is better to have an awkward conversation about it before you actually try it, just in case you fall flat on your face and end up making things really awkward in the throes of passion.
Most of the time, women will never bring up this topic or admit to wanting you to talk dirty to them unless you bring up the topic yourself. They certainly don’t bring it up themselves, unless they are particularly turned on. The best way to approach this if you are interested in integrating these kinds of things in to your sex life is to have a open conversation with your partner, after you’ve already been intimate together. This way, you’ll both be relaxed and ready to talk about stuff without the instant awkwardness cropping up. Talking to your partner is a very difficult part of relationships that most couples avoid because it could blow up in their face. Take the risk and you’ll be much happier in and out of the bedroom.
Your girlfriend or wife probably has some thoughts on the things she likes in the bedroom already so asking her to tell you about her fantasies or about their opinions on roleplaying could be a good way of seeing what’s up. Some girls like dirty talk, some are indifferently and some won’t like it. People are different by definition, so don’t assume something that worked on your ex girlfriend will work on all other women worldwide. If you don’t want to go for it and just ask outright, you could try just using mild dirty phrases whilst you are already having sex and see how she responds. Most girls will be at worst indifferent if you say something mildly dirty in sex and if you partner looks pleased or excited by what you have said, you can dial it up a little. Be slow, careful and methodical about what you are saying and think about the words you use. People tend to underestimate what things they say can do to other people’s feelings and if you are the type of person to talk before thinking, you might want to try out your lines in the mirror before you use them in the bedroom.
People always think that dirty talk is something that happens specifically in the bedroom and that there is no way that they could integrate it in to their lifestyles throughout a normal day. Many people partake in sending each other dirty text messages with suggestions and ideas for what they might do later in the day and this could be an interesting way of broaching the subject to your beaute.
When you actually get round to trying out dirty sex, make sure that you are doing it in the right way. Nobody wants to hear you describing things using anatomical nomenclature and so on. Dirty talk is meant to be passionate and seedy, inspiring your sex to a new level, not a lesson in what to say to turn someone off. Don’t go too overboard and think that you have to monologue. Ask question and get your partner to tell you how good things feel. Most people quite enjoy dirty talk, even if they don’t admit that they do so it is always worth trying out a little bit of mild dirty talk. Even if your partner wants to be made to feel like they are dirty, start off with mild things as you don’t know what might upset them. Jumping in to the deep end with this kind of thing can be quite shocking, especially if your partner isn’t used to you talking like this, so you’ll be best off with a little bit of caution. In all honesty, women feel exactly the same as men when it comes to dirty talk. Some like it and want it, some don’t mind it occasionally and will participate, whilst others will really dislike it and wonder what on earth has got in to your brain. Remember to keep it light and even if it all goes horribly wrong, you’ll at least have something to laugh about in a few weeks time. It is not the end of the world if your partner doesn’t like to talk dirty, so don’t worry too much about it.