In the heat of the moment, you can easily lose your head and do things that you regret. Every couple has arguments and often this can lead up to a big break up between a couple.
I hear the title of this article quite a lot and always respond to it with the same thing. Is it really that you want your girlfriend back, or is it that you want someone to spend time with?
Whilst most people don’t see the difference, there is a very important distinction to be made. If you want your old girlfriend back by your side, you are going to have to try really hard to make sure that she feels happy and content enough to date you again, whereas if you just want to find companionship, there are hundreds of ways to do that without possibly making things worse between you and your ex.
Your ex is going to be annoyed, angry, frustrated and a whole host of other emotions and you need to give them time to work through these emotions. Jumping straight back and calling/texting them all the time isn’t fair and will lead to you alienating your ex. She needs time to get over what is happening to her and think about how much of the relationship she enjoyed.
This means leaving her to her own devices for a little while so she can get her head together. If she contacts you and asks to talk, answer the phone or meet up with her and let her say what she wants to say before bringing up the possibility of getting back together. She might want you back or she might not, but it isn’t for you to decide. You broke up with her and you must accept that it is her choice whether she dates you again.
Imagine it the other way round and someone just breaks up with you out of the blue. How would you feel about that person right there and then? I’m willing to bet not that positive and this is exactly how your ex partner will be feeling after you break up with her. You wouldn’t just get back together with her because she asked nicely would you?
Leave her alone for a little while before you ask to see her.
The extra time you have alone shouldn’t be wasted being heartbroken and sitting around playing video games. As long as you were a good boyfriend through the relationship and there was just a little problem in the relationship, you’ll be able to get her back when you finally talk to her again. Don’t blow up her phone by calling and texting until she replies, as she will need emotional space for getting over the break up.
So, you’ve spent a few weeks or a month improving yourself and thinking over what happened over the course of the relationship and figuring out how to fix it, right? Now, you have to decide whether you still want your ex back. I know, I know, why else would you have spent all that time improving yourself?
People often get so rooted in to making sure that they get their exes back that they lose track of what makes them happy in the first place and how they like to be. The worst thing you can do is get your girlfriend back and then break up with her again because you are unhappy.